By Andrea Stone, USA TODAY
When Harold Birtcher and his partner, Thom O'Reilly, decided to adopt a child three years ago, Ohio officials told the men only one of them could become the legal parent. In Ohio, same-sex partners are barred from joint adoption.
So the men, who have been together for 25 years, went to Oregon to jointly adopt Michael, now 10. The boy had been beaten and sexually abused, O'Reilly says, and refused to hug anyone for most of his four years in foster care.
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Do you support or oppose gay adoption?
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Well i am a firm believe in doing what is best for you, therefore I try not to judge people. What harold birtcher said rings in my head though: "Our prisons are full of people who were in foster care, and those people were in, quote unquote, straight family homes", because it is so true. No one can say anyone type of person will make a good parent. The fact that anyone person is taking the initiative to make a child there own is a good thing. When there are so many peolple mentally or physically abusing their own children. I dont think it is man's decision to give "permission" to someone who they can and can't love, which to me is what it boils down to. Just as the government is trying to tell the gays and lesbians they can't love one another and exemplify their love in marriage; the government is also trying to tell these people: " you can't love the way we love, you can't not teach this child what we can, therefore you are not worthy of such a task." It's wrong, even the senator, who himself, was adopted as a child expressed that to a child it doesn't matter if the parents are a straight couple or gay couple, as long as they are loving parents.
This is quite the topic and my opinion on it is very set. Not only because in my spirit and soul do I believe it is not correct, but also because it has affected some people around me.
I have two friends who grew up with two parents of the same gender. The mother of one had not tried being a lesbian out of shame, so she tried "experimenting" with a man. first try she got pregnant. Therefore, my friend grew up without a dad.
It affected her and made her a very angry person. Sure, she had two moms but she was different than the other kids. When she went to school meetings for parents she brought in two women and had to let people stare at her. Not including that it crippled her interaction with the male gender.
Honestly, I don't have anything against gay people. They are entitled to live their lives just like everyone else does. However, it's not about their right..but the rights of the children that have to suffered due to it.
Of course this is based from my experiences..perhaps other children that grew up in a single gender home have different experiences.
I have nothing against gay couples wanting to adopt children; in fact, i support it. If there are children out there who are suffering and without a family, then i don't see why the fact of a couple being gay should affect that adoption. They are a family nonetheless, no matter if they're heterosexual or homosexual.
I do think that this choice of homosexual couples to adopt could affect the child's development. We don't live in a very accepting world, so the child could have to deal with judgment. But I think that hindrance is greatly smaller than not being in a family at all.
Children need love and support to grow, and denying that just because of a couple's sexual preference is cruel and unfair.
I do not think that it should matter if a straight or guy couple wants to adopt a children, as long as they can provide a stable home and love for that child. I can not understand people who say that guy people can't provide for a child, that they wouldn't make good parents, or that their sexual orientation is going to effect the child. I mean I know people who got married, had children, and later come out of the closet and admitted they were guy. These people that I am talking about are some of the best parents I have ever seen. Who determines who is going to make a good parent? You never really know what kind of parent you are going to be until you are put into that situation. I believe that everyone deserves the chance to be a parent.
I am no one to judge another so it is kind of hard for me to answer this. I have been brought up being taught that girls should like guys and guys should like girls and that’s how it is. While one can argue that this is not true and one can have feelings for the same gender as themselves I do not believe it is true. If men were suppose to like men and women were suppose to like women then we would have been made that way; however, we were not. Same-sex couples cannot have children naturally so why should we have the right to allow them to adopt when it is obvious that they should not? I believe it puts the child at a disadvantage because they are not like the rest of their peers and having to parents of the same gender can cause them to feel left out. So I oppose gay adoption.
At first thought I am against same-sex adoptions. After thinking about it some more, it doesn't take a same sex couple to raise a kid poorly; plenty of opposite sex couples are horrible parents. I ulimately believe that anyone should be able to adopt a child as long as they are deemed an adequate care-giver. It is better to have one set of parents, same-sex or not, then to go between foster home to foster home and not have any structured parenting figure.
I support gay couples adopting children because you dont have to be straight to give a child love and be a good parent. With all the children out there that need a good home we shouldn't base peoples parenting skills on their sexual orientation. I have friends who have gay parents and turned out to be great adults .I think we as people make gay couples outkasts by deciding that being gay isn't normal in our society.I think that the standards for adopting a child should be the same for gay couples ,they should be treated equally . You wouldnt ask a straight person about there sexual habbits or how many people they've slept with in order to adopt a child.Parents make mistakes because of the people they are not because of the people they are sleeping with.
just like ofe22 said you dont have to be straight to take care of or raise a child and even if two gay couples dont get to adopt a child in the family home its going to go on enyways. i'm dating a guy and his babymother is gay and she is raising his daughter with another women in the house hold she see them kissing and huging all the time. so do you still think adoption is going to stop gay people from raising a child
? so my boyfriend decided that when he gets a chance to get his daughter, he want me and him to hug and kiss in front of her to allow her to know this is how a woman and man should be not woman to woman and so we did and the first thing she said was my mommy and her girlfriend do that. me and him just smile and look at each other with speechless faces hoping she would understand when she gets older. we are not forcing her to know about sexual contact about men and woman but for her to know a different way of looking at love.
just like ofe22 said you dont have to be straight to take care of or raise a child and even if two gay couples dont get to adopt a child in the family home its going to go on enyways. i'm dating a guy and his babymother is gay and she is raising his daughter with another women in the house hold she see them kissing and huging all the time. so do you still think adoption is going to stop gay people from raising a child
? so my boyfriend decided that when he gets a chance to get his daughter, he want me and him to hug and kiss in front of her to allow her to know this is how a woman and man should be not woman to woman and so we did and the first thing she said was my mommy and her girlfriend do that. me and him just smile and look at each other with speechless faces hoping she would understand when she gets older. we are not forcing her to know about sexual contact about men and woman but for her to know a different way of looking at love.
Anyone who suffers from allergies knows that when your nose is running and the pressure in your head is pounding you need an antihistamine to relive the pressure and itchiness, as well as a decongestant to dry you out so you can breath. Without both, your body is unable to get what it needs to provide full relief. I believe the same is true when raising children. There are emotional and psychological needs children have that they are only able to get from one sex or the other. To place a child in a single sex household you are essentially placing the child into a broken home. While it is true that many children grow up in broken homes, myself for one, I don’t believe it is fair for the child to be sent directly to a broken home. Homosexuals need to understand that while their way of life is becoming more understood and accepted, they are the exception of the norm and are going to have to expect to do with out some of the normal things in life.
Yes, I support gay and lesbian adoption rights. I believe that each and every child is entitled to a loving family no matter gay, lesbian, or straight. Who are we, as human beings, to be able to look at another and put he or she down just because they're different? A child needs love and care; and if a person no matter what sexuality is able to love and financially support that child then we should be respectful to that person. In my opinion it is obvious homosexuals are able to love on a greater level than many of us. They are able to see past prejudice and live their life in happiness with their significant other. Love isn't just marked by those who are "Straight" it's a natural occurrence and any and everybody has a right to live it, show it, and do it.
I want to first say that I do not intend to offend anyone in this post, I am only stating my thoughts.
When it comes down to it, I do not agree with gay adoption. On the subject of the child being adopted, there are certain necessities that a child needs when he/she is growing up. Such as the need for education, and the need for balanced affection. what I mean by that is if a female has two male parents, the female is not going to be as comfortable in asking questions about what to do once her period comes, or questions about boys, about make-up, and the list goes on. When a mother and daughter spend time together they are creating a spatial bond, that is what is called a mother-daughter relationship. I feel that the time that she spends with her parents and how they raise her is key to what makes a daughter who she is. The father and daughter have a spatial bond as well but it is not in the same way expressed.
What I am trying to say is, without both mother and father figures in ones life the child is missing out on a balance affection. I look at it similar to a child with only one parents or the other. It is just not fair for the child to not have both influences on his or her life.
A child deserves to be loved by their parents. I don't believe it really matters if the parents are male and female, male and male, or female and female. Many children only have one parent who cares about them, and many families are split up and broken. So if a child has a chance to be loved they should get it no matter who it is. Gays should be allowed to adopt children. Many children end up in foster care or alone, why deny them the chance to be loved and cared for. Just because a person has a different sexual preference then the norm does not mean they cannot provide for a child. To deny a person the right for a child is not right. America is a free country and yet we restrict the rights we give to someone who is considered "different." A child deserves parents. A sexual preference has nothing to do with how they raise a child. Not all heterosexual parents are perfect as not all homosexual parents will be, but everyone should get the chance.
The concept of gay adoption is controversial. I think there is respectable support for both sides of the issue. However, the primary concern should be the welfare of the child. If hard to place children are allowed to have a gay couple as foster parents they the needs of placement are being met without the necessity of a legal adoption. If only one member of the gay couple is allowed to adopt the child it is no different from homes where there is only one parent who is the actual legal parent of the child while the other is the stepfather or stepmother. Those families work successfully without the necessity of having a new spouse adopt the child of the other legally. I agree that Americans have become more tolerant of same-sex relations, but many Americans still believe such relationships are an aberration, and do not fit the ”what is normal” parameters of a relationship between a man and a woman. One should not disenfranchise conservative values to permit liberal values or philosophies. I, personally do not think it is responsible to allow “unnatural” relationships to find respectability or the appearance of normality in legislative law. There is really not enough evidence that the gay adoption of children will not affect the social mores of the children involved, and what protects the child from being exposed to pressure by his gay parents to embrace the gay lifestyle if they are not so inclined.
I for one support gay adoption , I agree with O’Reilly if the child can live in a safe and loving environment where he or she can grow then who are we to say that they aren’t fit to adopt the child. Also if these children are really being beaten in the foster homes shouldn’t we try to get the kids out of that element and into something better.
I think its ok for two people of the same gender to adopt a baby. It gives the baby a fair chance of growing up in a good home. Parenting can be done just as well with two dads or two moms as it would be with a mom and a dad. Everyone assumes a responsibility when it comes to their child. I believe it would also give the child a better understanding of a world where not everyone is accepted. They would probably grow up with less prejudice against people who are considered "different" socially. Placing a child in a home with same sex parents isnt putting it in a "broken home". A broken home in my opinion is growing up with out one parent. I grew up without a father and all through childhood all of my friends had fathers. I was considered "different" but I didnt know any better. Now divorce is a norm...along with being an open homosexual. The child may know that their parents aren't considered normal but at least they'll have two people that will always love them. Even if it is daddy and daddy.
Children in social services and who need to be adopted only want someone to love them and care for them. If there are not enough straight people who want to adopt for those reasons and care for a child, I do not think it is fair to leave the child in social services just because the state doesnt want to allow a homosexual to adopt them. I have a friend whos mother is a foster parent for three children and is planning on adopting them shortly, if homosexuals are able to be the foster parent of these children they should be able to adopt them as well.
I think gays adopting foster children is great. Of course someone will have to survey them to make sure they have a stable home and income to take care of a child, but these children are going to be raised in a loving environment! So many problems with children these days develop from being in a single-parent home, or a home with chaos and vice issues (hence why some of these children are put into foster homes to begin with). It's not like there's a high demand for adoption. These children dream about being taken in by a family, and a lot of those dreams don't come true. It's easy to think of "the perfect family" in your eyes and say thats how it should be, but thats not life. You have to give and take, step into the gray area and do whats best for the people at stake. In other words, really... I mean REALLY think of the children. Don't just look at one aspect; think about how much better their whole life can become.
I dont really pay to much attention to gay rights but I oppose gay marige. I feel that a kid needs both a father and a mother in there lives. Statistics say that kids with a mother and a father are much more successful and in less trouble than that kid with the same sex parents. But on the other hand kids with the same sex parents would have a much broader view toward situations like this. But me personaly i do not like the idea of same sex adoptions.
I believe that if someone wants a child, and can financially take care of the child, then he or she should be able to adopt. I know a gay couple in Massachusetts and they adopted a boy. I believe gays should have the right to adopt. The government does not have the right to tell any couple they cannot have a child because they are the same sex. Any couple should be able to take care of someone that the both of them can love. There are plenty of heterosexual families who physically cannot have a child and decide to adopt, so what is the difference with the same sex couples not being able to physically bare children who also want to adopt? That just is not fair.
i have nothing against the gay community, there gay its there choice doesn't effect me. But i don't think that gays should be able to adopt. Not because they wouldn't love the kid and take care of it. But because there are only some things a father can teach his son or daughter. And there are only some things a mother can teach her daughter or son. If the child grows up in a gay family they are missing out on what the other sex thinks and nows. In the end parents can only do so much for there kids the rest is up to them. So i guess i cant say im 100 percent against gays adopting.
i think that if two people are in love it should not matter what their sexual orientation is. if they are good people and will be physically, mentally, and financially able to care for a child, i see no reason to why they can not have children just because they are homosexual. I'm sure that if they have kids there will be some punk kid in one of their child's classes that is going to make fun of them because their parents are gay, but everyone gets made fun of for some dumb reason as a child so why should that prevent two people from adopting a child? Also, I'm sure that if two homosexual people have thought enough about children and decided that they want one badly enough to adopt, I'm sure that they would make better parents then two teenagers that accidentally got pregnant and decided to keep their unborn child, even though they had not planned out having children at all, or anytime soon, which is totally accepted in todays society.
I believe that homosexual couples should be allowed to adopt. Although I do not agree with that lifestyle, I believe that what is most important is that a child be given a home and family that will provide him or her with love, care, tenderness, and stability. I do not think that a person’s sexual orientation affects that at all; however, I feel that girls should be raised by women and that boys should be raised by men. There are so many children in the foster care system, some of which will spend their entire childhood in it, and they should not be denied a place to call home simply because a couple may be homosexual. I believe that in an ideal world every child would be raised by a compassionate mother and father, but in the real world that isn’t always an option which is why sexual orientation should not impede a couple from adopting.
I don't believe gay couples should adopt children. I believe like some others students said God made men to like women and women to like men. It takes a men and women to make a child so therefore i believe that only straight coulpes should adopt children. I think a child would suffer all their life being with same sex couples. A child needs love and caring from both sides (male/female). If a little girl is adopted by two male couples, how are you going to talk to her about sex or when she start her peroid for the first time. It's just not the same. I totally against gay adoption 100%.
I have nothing against gays or lesbians; however, I do not think they should adopt children. Although they may very well be able to love and care for the child, the child will be affected greatly in years to come. As children get older, they may have their parents come to school for a parents day; however, if children see two mommies or daddies, they are very likely to make fun of that child. Children should have two different gender parents in their life. Some children who do not have one or the other may grow up angry and and may become deviant. I'm not saying that people who have both parents from opposite sexes are exempt from this possibility; however, I know some statistics do show that children who do not grow up with a father figure have been likely to become deviant children.
I do not oppose of gay adoption. I believe if a home can provide enough love and care for the child, it shouldn't matter if the love comes from two men or two women. I have a cousin whom is gay, and he told me that one day he wants to adopt a child with his partner; but he is scared the child with be ridiculed all throughout his life. If that is the case, then our society has some serious issues. In fact, I think that the parents are the ones responsible for their children to behave in such manner; children who call kids names and make fun of them because they have two dads, or two moms. It shouldn't matter to our society who nurses the child, what our society should care about is if the child is being provided the love and care that they deserve, no matter the sexual orientation of their mom or dad.
I support adoption by gay couples. I do not think that a couple's sexual orientation has any effect on their ability to parent a child. There are those who are concerned that a child raised by two parents of the same sex will miss out on those things that only a father or only a mother could teach, and to that I say that every child I know of is raised by more than just the two people who are his or her parents. It takes a village to raise a child, as the old saying goes. The familes of the couple are likely to be involved in the child's life, and the child will likely be surrounded by adults of both sexes, regardless of the parents' orientation. I don't think I'd make a better parent just because I'm straight, so I can't see thinking someone who isn't would make a worse one.
I fully support gay/lesbian adoption. Who’s to say that two males or two females raising a child won’t do a better job than a male and female parent? I have lesbian aunts and they are awesome with all there nieces and nephews. For all of us they are our favorite aunts. There are an overwhelming number of un-adopted children yet we are preventing wanting couples to adopt because there homosexual. I feel that those children would be better off to be adopted by a homosexual couple how wants to love and care for them than remaining at cold unloving foster home.
I believe that gay adoption is something that may make growing up for a child a little bit more difficult. However, I find it strange that people would complain about this issue, because the fact that people are willing to take a child into their home and give them somewhere to grow up is something that isn't done enough. There is already a problem with kids growing up in the foster system and never getting any true sense of family, so if we have some people who are willing to help, even if they are gay, then it should be allowed, therefore I approve of gay adoption, even though I do feel that growing up with gay parents may make things a little harder for a child.
Honestly, I am more traditional, and believe that children should live in an ideal father/mother environment. However in this day and age with all of the foster children in broken homes who suffer so much, and have no problem with gays/lesbians adopting children and giving them love. I believe what these children need is a loving environment and an opportunity to succeed in life and not end up in the streets. I am not of the frame of mind that if your parents or friends are gay, a child will also become gay. This in my opinion is not true. If a same sex couples can provide the environment love and care that will benefit a child, and keep them from a foster care, I truly believe they should be given that opportunity as well. I don’t understand why people are so afraid of same sex couples, and believe that maybe more education might help against the homophobia that so many people have. They are also cable of providing a good environment for children.
What really does not make any sense to me is that if people will not allow gay marriages, then how can a person and their same sex partner adopt a child together? Statistics show that children in families where the parents are still married are a little more successful in life than a child or children where the family only has one parent for example only a mother or a father. So how could it be any better if a gay couple adopts a child? Either way the child grows up with only a mom because of the two women or only a dad because of the two men. Refuting that the CWLA says otherwise, the child needs an environment where the mother and father are present. Each one offers different roles and guidance that a child needs. And no, a man cannot give the same guidance as a mother and vice versa. Allowing gay couples to adopt would alleviate the problem of not a lot of children being adopted but would be no better in the long run because nothing would change statistically speaking and if two men and two women cannot have a child naturally then obviously it’s not natural of them to raise children.
In general, I do not care what people do with their lives. I live and let live. But if you ask my opinion, I do not support anything gay. I don’t support gay marriage, adoption or any of it. It’s disgusting to me and wrong. I don’t think it would set a good example for the children being raised by gay people. I just don’t like it, and I’m pretty open-minded about most things. But something about it isn’t right to me. They should be happy with the rights they currently have. Either way, there will always be an issue with gay rights. I think it’s a waste of time.
I think gay adoption would give homeless and parentless kids two parents just like any other adoption. What the article says is very true about the fact that most children up for adoption are already scarred from previous abuse and neglect. So what if the adopting parents are gay- BIG DEAL! The bottom line is that these children (with no one to take care of them) will be given a home and two loving parents!!! Regardless of there gender or sexual preference they can still love the child and take care of him/her like any heterosexual couple. Eventually when the kids grow up they are going to be exposed to gay people anyway, so why is it such a bad thing???
First of all...I just want to say that I have nothing against people that are gay. I have nothing against gay marriage and I have nothing against gay adoption. I feel that as long as the people that adopt are loving people who can provide for a child, they should be allowed to adopt. It shouldn't matter what sexual preference a person has...when it comes to being able to adopt or not. What's wrong with that? I don't see anything wrong with two dads or two moms. Children need loving people to take care of them and be there for them...I see nothing wrong with gay parents. WE NEED TO OPEN OUR EYES AND OPEN OUR MINDS...It's just stupid to think that everything different is wrong. I think that eventually gays will be allowed to adopt and marry...only time will tell.
[[Sorry if I was just rambling...I do that a lot]]
I think if two people of the same gender want to adopt/have children they should be able too. A "straight" family isn't any better then any other type of family. Having to parents of the same gender isn't wrong or bad, different yes and the only reason its a big deal is because of "close minded" people who cant step out from there 1950's point of view. There are a lot of kids that need a home. If they have the chance to have a nice home, love and good care. I don't think it matters who provides it.
Why are women always saying that men need them, yet then agreeing with gay marriage? Do two men really have what it takes to raise a child? ...Or two women?
Give me a break. This is one topic I can't find myself being politically correct on. Maybe that will make up for the rest of the comments that have been pro-gay-adoption thus far.
Have we really become so open minded that we can only accept the liberal side of an issue? How about the hundreds of millions of successful heterosexual marriages and families with children that succeed in life?
What ever happened to looking at two options and picking the better? If heterosexual couples have proved - by sheer the mass of statistical weight - to be vastly more productive than homosexual, who are we kidding by supporting anything less? True, single parents and the victims of divorce sometimes can't help their situations. But it is completely %100 a person's decision to marry someone of the same sex. It's optional.
Similar to those who may choose to indulge in illegal drugs, I believe it is perfectly normal for homosexual couples to be denied adoption "rights."
And, similar to those who take contraband, homosexual couples are no less capable people than are any other group of individuals. Everyone should be treated with the same amount of respectful tolerance.
Many children don't have a family that would raise them to be successful. If a gay couple is willing to make such a child successful, why shall we deny both the gay couple the rights to parenthood, and the child of a potential future. America has become too prejudice against homosexuals, by saying that gay adoption will create more homosexuals. This theory has never been proven. My stance on this issue is, if we can provide a child with good care and nurturing from parents who happen to be homosexuals, why don't we. That child either has a chance to get involved in crime or He/she can be guided by loving parents. Sexual orientation does not matter, the child's future does.
FYI: I count 6 people fully against homosexual adoption out of the 39 comments. (I say six because I count 5 full disagreements and 2 half disagreements)
I would say this constitutes a minority.
Stevie
The post will close next Wed. I think then you will be able to form a more accurate picture. It will be an interesting statistic.
However, I disagree with the adjective "liberal" being aplied here. When we discussed the detah penalty the vast majority supported it full heartedly and a few is some pretty blood thirsty terms. As you know "liberals" are against the death penalty.I am using the quotation marks because these terms (liberal and conservative) occasionally overlap and often lead to confusion.
In this context, I use the word "liberal" in the sense of "not limited to or by established, traditional, orthodox, or authoritarian attitudes, views, or dogmas" (American Heritage Dictionary, definition 1). In my own words, not limited to morals. ("founded on the fundamental principles of right conduct rather than on legalities, enactment, or custom")
i believe that gay people should not be allowed the right to have children. not because the fact that they are gay but because of the effect it will have on the children. i believe there are many cons to this especially in the way the children will be treated in public and alone. whether it is bullying, harassing or straight up making fun because they have two dads or two moms. i have no problem with people who are gay though i dont believe it is right for the children more than one person is greatly effected by this decision.
I am against being Gay and Gay adoption. I do not hate homosexuals; I just feel that what they do is wrong. Children are born from a Woman and a Man not two Females nor two males. Therefor they should be brought up in the Male/Female home.
First and foremost I oppose gay adoption! I do not think that people of the same sex should raise children. A child is conceived from a male and a female. Whether or not the child has both parents around is a different story. Raising a child around two dads or two moms is confusing. It will complicate the child's life even more. Gay parents aren't necessarily bad parents but it doesn't mean they should raise a child either. God created a man and women for a reason. A child should have a mom and a dad, not both parents of the same sex. what kind of a message are you giving to your child? I would never agree with the idea of gay adoption even if someone in my family was a homosexual.
All I'm going to say is be careful about it. The kid is going to have to deal with the questions and other effects on their social life due to their same sex parents. Face it, some people in our society aren't the nicest folks around. I think that its okay, no matter who you are if you want to take a child into your life and make it better for them by all means go right ahead.
I support gay adoption. If a responsible adult wants to adopt a child and bring them into a steady, supportive environment, then what is the problem? So what if it is two men, or two women? As long as the child is getting love, an education and a supportive upbringing then I see nothing wrong with it. I believe as with any family and any child, it is up to the parents to teach morals, values and any education that a school may not teach. I have heard that some children that are raised in gay families turn out gay themselves or are sexually confused. I think that not completely true. I think it is the parents responsibility to make sure the child understands all aspects of personal status, whether it be sexually, parental or gender roles. I think as long as a family is loving and has open and good communication then it should not matter. I never understood the big deal about sexual preference anyway. I have several gay friends and have even had gay bosses and they are among some of the most caring and smart people I have known. Your sexual preference has nothing to do with anything in life except who you have sex with. If you are a good person then what is the big deal about who you sleep with? Homosexuality is so over rated. People see it as a big deal because society makes it a big deal. Nobody cares who straight people sleep with. I think it is a good thing that gay couples want to adopt children. Foster homes are sometimes worse than biological homes. If there are couples out there that want to adopt and can provide a loving home than why would the government want to deny an innocent child a chance at a good life?
In my opinion there is nothing wrong with homosexual couples who want to adopt children. The adoption of a child requires a lot of money and dedication. Any person who is willing to take that responsibly (homosexual or not), I think, is already more dedicated than many other parents out there. One of the main reasons why i have doubted if it should be allowed, is the fact that the child would have to deal with the criticism and discrimination that would come with having homosexual parents. After thinking about the problems the child would have to go through, i realized that there is not one single person in this world who hasn't been discriminated against for one reason or another. We are criticized daily by the way we dress, the music we listen to, our religion, our ethnicity, and even the color of our skin. The things a child with homosexual parents would have to go through, are not that different from what all of us have gone through growing up. For example a child with parents who are very obese would have to learn do deal with class mates making fun of him and his parents. The same situation would happen to a child with homosexual parents, and from personal experience learning to deal with ignorance and discrimination only makes you respect the differences of others and to be more secure about who you are. The ability to adapt and learn is one of the best in human beings, i have no doubt that a child with homosexual parents would be able to lead a normal and happy life
I am a firm believer of who people choose to love. I have no problem with gay/ Lesbian marriages, but there is a problem when a gay/lesbian couple wants to adopt a child. Reason why I am against gay/ lesbian adoption is that the world was created for man and women to create a child, there is no other (formal) way to create a child. In addition, I believe that a child should not grow up in a household with two mothers or two fathers, because the child will most likely not be able to make his own decision of who to love. Reason for this is that the child will constantly see the couple do what couples normally do, this would give the thought to the child that he or she should do what their two mothers or fathers have done.
This earth has nearly more people inhabitig it than it can support. There are hugefamilies whose parents can not guarantee three meals a day. If there are loving couples who wish to foster and adopt homeless children, they should be encouraged, not protested against. A couple's sexual orientation does not matter, in any situation I believe, and definitely not in this case. There are many gay couples who of course can not have children the traditional way, who wish to have a family and provide a loving home for these children. Their homosexuality does not determine whether or not they will be good parents. As long as they meet all the other requirements for adoption, gay couples should absolutely be allowed to adopt, and encouraged.
I do not agree with gay adoption. I don't think it is fair for the child to grow up in a same sex family. The reason for this is that children that grow up with two moms are left without that father figure. Most little girls are very close with their father's and need them in their life. A woman can try to play the role of the father but it isn't the same. I had a friend in high school that had two moms. This girl never knew her dad and it really affected her. When I say it affected her it did mentally and emotionally. She had problems getting close to guys in high school because she never had that father figure. She would try to buy the guy's love or do other things because she just wanted to be close to a guy. Doing those things did not help the situation. She ended up dropping out of high school and moved to California. She hated being around her family. This girl has always been ashamed of having two moms and not having a "normal" family. I don't keep in touch with her anymore but last I heard she is in a lot of trouble. There is no way I agree with gay adoption.
I honestly believe that gay people should have as many rights as the next person. Who's to say because you're gay you cannot raise a child or a family? I feel that as long as people are happy they should be allowed to do their own thing, within reason of course. I feel that regardless of your sexuality any adult can care for a child and raise them to be good people. I agree that it is a bit different for these children possibly to go through life with two moms or two dads but at least they will have an oppourtunity for someone to love them and care for them. I feel like all children should have a chance. Gay people should not be singled out, they are human just like you and I. I personally don't think sexuality has a thing to do with raising a family however I think that if there is a same sex couple that is ready and willing to accept and adopt a child they shoul be applauded. It takes special people to raise children that are not their own. Most people would rather have their own children, people who adopt are doing a courageous thing, and if you happen to be gay also, so what? Being gay does not make you less of a person, parent, or citizen.
In my opinion, I do not opposse the gay or lesbian couple, homosexual marriage and gay or lesbian adoption. It is just personal matter for each individual. The gay couple who wants to take responsibility taking care children, giving the good environment as a "normal family" for the kids especially for those who are unlucky getting love from their parents in the family should be given a right to adopt. But one thing that should be considered for this couple is how to make these children growing up in mentally and physically ready to face any critism and pressure from others. It would be better for a homosexual couple to see what are the best for the children in the future without just thinking that we want to adopt children because these kids need love or support in a family and we surely can give it to them. The question that could be answered is "Do we ready to encourage these kids to face the situation by living with parents in the same gender and do these children can learn to adapt not only in the family but also in the society?"
For me, this type of situation is hard to take a side on. I am not exactly all for gay couples but I am not opposing it at all. Now, gay couples adopting children, I think it is a good deed and they should be applauded for it. I think the question is if they can raise "their" child or children properly. If gay couples can provide things needed for the child such as love and happiness, then I have no problem with it at all. Also, gay couples adopting children may also inspire other couples, or even families to adopt children, which would be nice.
I don't feel how someone loves a child should be based on your sexuality. There are many children that will never experience the foundation of a family. They will never feel the love. Adoptions Applications should not even be allowed to ask these questions. It does not matter if you are man or women, or single or married, if you are capable and willing to take another child in your home and include him/her in your family and give them the love they really need, there should be no question.
As for everyone being so open about what goes on behind bedroom doors, (that's another Blog)why is it necessary? I feel the reason there is so much controversy is because many are quick to announce to the world what they like in the bedroom. When it comes down to it there are many of us that doesn't really care, just be happy with yourself. Soul mates are not bias and do not discriminate, if you find a soul mate that is the same sex its OK, your happy. You should not let the law stop that love, you don't need a piece of paper to be married to someone, just committed. That is why Adoption Applications are too detailed and bias. If you can prove you can financially raise a child, let them.
jamescowan
It is my understanding that according to the most recent interpratation of Torah, one should not distance himself from homosexuals, but instead he should try to get closer in order to "assist with changing their sexula orientation." For example, the organization JONAH has been created for that purpose.
All religions have moved away from exclusion. If they had not, they simply would have been marginalized.
On the other hand, some Jews disagree and this is why there is today "The World Congress of Gay and Lesbian Jews" that has more than 50 member organizations around the world.
I oppose gay adoption for many reasons. One I believe that it unmoral, for the simple fact the man and woman should bear / raise a child. Growing up with two of the same sex can cause confusion to the child. There would be an emptiness of either a father figure or a mother figure. There is certain thing that only a mother can teach and there are certain things that only a father can teach. It also can cause embarrassment toward the child resulting into low self-esteem. The standard way in raising a child is having a mother and father. Gay adoption can lead to many misleading self conceptions that are why they should be raised in a natural way.
I support gay adoption because my aunt is gay and has a loving and caring partner whom makes her happy. The whole family gets along with her really well. If my aunts wanted to adopt a child and they found out that they couldn't because it was banned from there state I would be upset. They are both loving and caring people. They even took care of my sisters' and me over the summer. They are really fun and they take us to fun places and sometimes the places are educational. In my opinion I see my Aunts adopting a child and raising it well. I believe that gays and lesbians should be able to adopt because in todays society some of kids who are with regular parents that are abusive and not caring are going to end up in foster homes anyway.Plus some of the adopting parents are not really caring and may be abusive as well and the kids will end up back in foster care. So why not give people who want to care and love a child, a child even if they are gay as long as they are being loved and cared for is that what matters the most.
I am not really religious, but I know that religion teaches about equality. And we live in America... The land of the free. So when a topic comes up like this, I can only think about why people would have a problem with it. Gays are just as qualified to take care of children as everyone else... After all they ARE people. Gay people are no different than everyone else, and they shouldn't be treated any differently. I do not think the gay community, in any way, affects mine, so personally, I believe the gay population should do whatever they want.
I believe that gays should be allowed to adopt, as well as do anything every other American is allowed to do.
I believe that gays should be allowed to adopt because they are people just anyone else is. No one has the right to say who is a good parent and who isn’t. Yes, many people who have been in foster care all their life sometimes end up in prison but that’s only because they haven’t had anyone care about them. They really haven’t had a family all their life and they haven’t had any good influences so how do you expect them to turn out. In my opinion, gay should be allowed to adopt. Yes, I know people will think it’s weird to have two mothers or two fathers and yes they might be made fun of but it would just be a different environment for the child to grow up in. Just think of how much love would be in that household and how much love the child would receive everyday. As for in being unconstitutional I really don’t see how it would be unconstitutional. Now, banning gay adoption is just out of the question because in the first place it wouldn’t be bad for the child at all. Therefore, what if the environment is different yes, it might effect the child differently but that shouldn’t be an issue. America says that it wants to be a more diverse country well banning gay adoption is not helping us to be a more diverse country. I like how O’Donnell states that “As a gay person, as a child, you kind of know what it's like to be the odd one out," Gays in my opinion can relate better to the child then a heterosexual couple who came from a normal family because the gay couple has been there and know what it’s like to not fit in.
Its kind of hard to say if the child would be better off with a straight couple of not. But if the child is going to have a better life with a gay or lesbian couple, then the couple should have a chance to adopt. Its better for the child to be with a loving coulple then with an abusive or neglegent one. On the other hand, having a couple that is straight i believe would be better for the child because the child should be exposed to both genders and I believe that the child would have better understanding of relationships out their.I really cant say if the child is better off with a straight couple or a gay couple because it really depends on how the couple raises the child.
I am all for gay couples being able to adopt.I understand that the child will grow up with two parents of the same gender and society may not approve right away but why do straight people have the right to adopt and gay people don't? They are all still human beings just like me and you and should have the right to get married and adopt children just as often as any straight couples.As for the controversy of what might happend to the child after it gets adopted and is raised by two parents of the same gender ; yes a lot of people won't approve and the child might be taunted about it but if the child has a happy loving family that loves him/her unconditionally what else matters?
I am not opposed to gay couples adopting or being foster parents. In many cases these couples can provide better care and a loving environment that is not provided by many foster homes with heterosexual couples. Their sexual orientation does not make them unfit to care for a child. A child having a mother and father does not guarantee a good upbringing, good morals or being well taken care of. As heterosexual parents explain to their children different views of homosexuals, bi-racial couples and single parent homes a gay couple would do the same. There are children raised in single parent homes in which their main influence is one gender. That does not mean that child will turn out to be a homosexual. Based on the conservative and judgmental views of many people, children of gay couples may get a second glance or get questions form other children. But bi-racial children experience the same. It is important that the adoption not be limited to one parent. If a medical emergency occurs and they do not recognize the parent present this can delay medical care. This has happened and will continue to happen until they recognize both parents in homosexual relationships. It also poses an issue when there is a death. If the parent whom legal adopted the child passes this poses a custody issue. There are many children who could benefit from allowing homosexual couples to adopt or be foster parents.
I SUPPORT GAY ADOPTIONS! Why does it matter if you are gay? These children need homes and if a gay family wants to adopt them so be it. Every individual has a mind of their own. I have a best friend who is gay and that is her choice. I am still her friend. I did not turn out gay. People these days need to get over themselves being gay is not a diseases. Being gay means that certain individuals like the same sex. I wonder if society thinks that gay parents may end up doing a bad job raising these children. I feel the foster care system should give gay parents a chance because they give straight parents many chances. Besides, just because a child is raised by a gay family do not mean they will turn out gay. These children need homes not a shelter or being tossed around from home to home. These children need somebody to care for them, love them and make them feel safe. As I recall, one of the purpose of the foster care system is to do that!!!!!!!
hello
“520,000 children in foster care, but only 50,000 find permanent homes.” This should be a state of emergency, not a statistic. Bill Maier feels that these children should be placed in an optimal home environment, but anyone who has spent time with a foster care child knows, that what these children need is a stable home. They need love and individual attention that they are not going to get from bouncing around from foster home to foster home. It breaks my heart to know that these children are being denied what could possibly be crucial to their very existence because conservatives don’t want to “scare” the children. My mother could not have children, so she adopted 6 children, including myself. I was fortunate, I was adopted at birth.
However, two of my sisters were taken out of foster care. They are twins, who had been so badly neglected and abused that at the age of three; they could not walk or talk. They were kept in kennels like dogs and the only language they knew was a language that they had made up between them. This is not the only sad foster care story. Same-sex couples have just as much love to give a child as anyone and that is what we should be focusing on. Maybe the politicians and conservatives should actually step foot into a foster care home and ask the children what they think. An “ideal” couple wants to adopt an “ideal” child; they want a cute little baby, one without the apparent mental issues that follow an older unwanted or abused child. These are the children that are left in foster care. These are the children that the conservatives are saying should be left bouncing from home to home, never knowing the love of a parent, so that they are not subjected to be teased in school. Something that is inevitable anyways.
Every child needs a chance to live life the way they were supposed to as they came to earth. There many changes in this century form the past ones that people have adapted to and do not feel odd about it. If a couple being straight, gay, or lesbian are willing to adopt a child to make the child's life a better place, why does their ascribed status matter? If society is so concerned for the growth of the child since the child is growing up in a non heterogeneous home, how much worst would it be growing up in a foster care home with no love, mental development, and limited needs. As a child grows they learn right from wrong and they learn their background, wouldn’t you think instead of arguing about why don't they have regular parents, they would thank them? If the government really wants to get children homes, they would, with requirements, let these people like you and me take this responsibility they can't obtain for their own. Gay couples have as much love and concern as straight couples do. I support gay adoption because it does not make anyone less parent like.
Dlandon
Quite a moving story! Your mother is an inspiring lady! Hats off to her!
As for some foster home statistics now.
The number of kids in the U.S. foster care system, has witnessed a 90% increase since 1987.
Three of 10 of the nation’s homeless are former foster children.
12-18 months after leaving foster care:
27% of the males and 10% of the females had been incarcerated
33% were receiving public assistance
37% had not finished high school
50% were unemployed
Also
80 percent of prison inmates have been through the foster care system.
Children are 11 times more likely to be abused in State care than they are in their own homes.
Children died as a result of abuse in foster care 5.25 times more often than children in the general population.
Only 3% of the kids placed in foster homes get college education.
I dont really think that anyone can judge whether or not gay parents would cause problems for adopted children. Some hetero parents do bad jobs of raising there children by abusing them in many diffrent ways or neglecting them. So why shouldnt gay parents have a chance to raise children also. Yes I do think there might be some concerns on how it will affect the child. But having no parents at all will also affect the child in a negative way.I support gay adoption because I dont think just because they are gay they shouldnt be allowed to have children they can do just as good or bad as staright parents. So why not give these kids in foster care a shot at having a family and parents who care and love them.
I am not sure what my stand is on gay marriage, which to me would play a huge role in the ability to adopt a child. When adopting a child you need to provide a stable support system and household. Every child should have the joy of having a mom and a dad because they play different roles. If a gay couple were to adopt then the child they get might be missing out on whatever person is not in the relationship (female in gay relationships or male in lesbian). You need that male AND female interaction to be a well developed person.
I support gay adoption. Sure, bringing two mothers or two fathers to a parent teacher conference can get a child some funny looks. What about the child who only brings in one mother and no father, and gets the funny looks because he has no father? It’s better to have two good parents of the same sex than one parent and then a missing figure who abandoned you. Yet nobody is launching a campaign to keep fathers from leaving their family. If a child grows up with two loving parents instead of no parents, what is the big deal? We need more open minded people in this world. Growing up with parents who have a loving, caring relationship and take good care of the child just can’t be worse than orphanages or foster homes.
I support gay couples adopting children. Gay couples are no different than straight couples when it comes to bringing up children and I find it a little ridiculous that just because they are the same sex that it doesn’t give them the right to care for a child. Not only are gay couples nurturing human beings, but they also deserve the same rights as straight couples. Also, there are so many children in need of being adopted and fostered that same sex parents that are more than eligible and fit to produce the needs, can be very well suited parents.
I cannot comment whether or not I feel comfortable with a defenseless child going to just anyone. I know many of individuals of all settings that are parents of adoption. Some are single individuals, married couples, and gay couples. I know these people and respect these people in various ways.
I really feel, that in all the cases that I am familiar with, the individual or couples involved were certainly qualified to assume the care and responsibility, of a child not of conception. Furthermore, they established a very loving relationship with the foster child or adopted child.
Let's face the facts, most people who are attempting or successful at adoption go under the scrutiny of the law and careful examination, and like I said in my opening statement, they should , because we do not want to place a defenseless child in the hands of anyone. Unfortunately, these things happen, and the child lives under more years of terror.
But, think about it, a gay couple who is fighting to care for someone else's child. What is the harm? Is a gay person's values different than mine or yours? Does a gay person go to a different church or school than a heterosexual peson? No. I do believe the law should recognize a person or persons individually as whether or not they qualified candidates to fulfill the needs of these children. Furthermore, social services should be concerned about scrutinizing each and every candidate to ensure the childs well-being and protection. (check alot of references). A good financial outlook and consistant work history should be a factor of foster care and/or adoption. This goes for anyone involved.
Should homosexuals be allowed to foster or adopt a child? My feeling is YES! if the individual(s) involved are cleared through the courts and state properly. To my unstanding these processes do entail classes, paperwork and history checks. "Freedom"
Personally, I do not believe there should be gay adoption. I believe that a child should belong to a married couple, and I believe that marriage should be between a man and a woman. I think that there should be parents of each sex raising a child, or children because each different sex parent teaches the child something different, and can give the child more perspectives than two of the same sex parents. For example, if a young male is raised by two fathers, he will not be able to understand or get along with women as well as he would if he had a mother in that situation- now that is just my opinion. Although I am a strong believer, gay parents are better than nothing, which is what a lot of kids have, and if they are willing to give there love the should. And just giving love to a child is not just adopting them, there are many programs devoted to helping the youth, and foster parents as well, but who am I to juge?
I do not think that anyone should have a problem with a child who is family less being taken in by a family who wants to love them, support them, and make that child part of their family. I don’t see why it would matter what sex you are attracted to that decides if you should be able to adopt or not. There are a lot of kids with out families and any one who wants to help should able to. I also don’t think that gay parents influence if that child will be gay.
I do not agree that same sex couples should be able to adopt. Everyone keeps saying how "just becuase they are gay DOESN'T mean they cannot provide love and care for a child.." BUT this does not really matter becuase JUST the same that gays can love, they can abuse too. My point is, THAT whole argument is pretty much one sided. Anyways, I think marriage should be between a man and a women; therefore, a man and a women united would be able to have a child. A child needs a mother relationship and a father relationship. Personally, I think it is kind of sad if someone grew up not having that type of balance in there life.
I am a Christian and with that my opinion is pretty well known without having to say much. I believe marriage is between a man and a woman and I also believe that children are influenced strongly by their environment and behave accordingly to it. At the moment it simply seems like picking the lesser of evils... leaving so many children in foster care or having them adopted by gays. I am not saying gay people are bad, it is their choice to live their life as they wish and I do have a few friends who are gay and we understand our views and respect both. I don't believe gays should adopt children because as a child they will simply imitate their parents and at a young age do they even know what they are imitating or accepting without knowing or having the choice?
I support homosexuals having the right to adopt a child. It would be better to give a child who had no home, a stable home with parents/guardians who will take proper care of the child, rather than keeping that child in the foster care system just because those willing to adopt happen to be gay. I doubt that the sexual orientation of those willing to adopt will have a negative effect on a child. I really don’t think that it should matter if a child has both a male and female parent/guardian in their life, but rather that those guardians care for the child and raise them to be respectable adults later in life.
To Me, If Someone Wants To Go For Something Because That's What They Want To Do, Then Just Go For It. I Don't Have Anything Against Gays/Lesbians Wanting To Adopt Children. Some Children Are Looking For Families That Have Been In Foster Homes Forever. And To Not Let Gays/Lesbians Take A Chance In Helping The Kid By Adopting Them And Raising Them Then It's Plain Stupid. I Don't Think Being Gay/Lesbian Makes The Couple Less Of A Family Or Less Responsible In Raising A Child. Children Need Families And If A Gay/Lesbian Couple Adopt One, Then It's Alright By Me. As Long As The Kid Finds A Home And Is Able To Live Like A Kid Outside Of A Foster Home And Be Raised Well Too.
I do support the right for gays and lesbians to adopt children. A person’s sexual orientation certainly has nothing to do with whether he/she and their partner are “fit” to raise a child. There are plenty of men/women couples who find it hard to raise a child and have just as many problems as any other person could have. To say that a gay couple would cause some sort of damage to a kid’s personal growth or his/her “necessities” is just wrong. Allowing them to adopt would result in a number of foster care children finding a real home with two parents, which I’m sure a majority of these children would be grateful for. Not to mention that if this adoption was allowed, maybe our next few generations wouldn’t be so judgmental towards something out of the norm.
You know I took the time to read some of the others comments before writing my own opinion and while I understand where many supporters are coming from I believe there are still too many factors against the situation for me my self to every support the act of same sex adoption. I can flat out say that as a Christian I whole heartedly disagree. God did not make our bodies to make babies with the same sex. It is completely impossible. Now that aside I can still think of a number of reasons to be against. If people want to be gay fine, its their decision to have that life style. Each has the right to make their own decision, do I agree with that decision? No. But thats why I have my own life and they have theirs. Now to force ones life style in my opinion is wrong. To take a child who will have no say in the life style by those who adopt them (they depend on the state) is hard on them. Many would argue we can't help who we are born to yes thats true but the state can choose who we are given to. I just don't believe that a child can receive the proper psychological upbringing and learn many important things they need to know about life through living with same sex families where one is supposed to replace the other gender. Personally I think yes that letting children either not be adopted or be adopted by a same sex couple is simply (to be non literal) "the worse of two evils" Yes I believe a gay couple can be physically and emotionally capable of caring for a child, and yes it would solve part of our vast numbers of needing homes for children, but in the long run will it really be the best option for children? It's going to happen with individual homosexuals so its not something that will stop unless that becomes illegal also. But I don't like it for that group to use the problem of too many children needing homes as their argument of "why" they should be given the right when thats not really the focus of that particular problem. Again you would have to weigh the disadvantages but I don't agree with same sex adoption my self.
So what if two guys or girls want to adopt a child. Does the fact that two people of the same sex want to raise and support a child. The orphanages have all these children who have no place to go except their assigned rooms at the facility. If a married, or whatever the state calls gay marriage, couple wants to take a kid out of that lonesome and almost loveless environment I think they should not have to worry about laws at all. They should be able to adopt in all states of the US. There is no reason a family of two men or two women should be kept from having the experience of parenthood simply because some people don’t agree with gay marriage. I myself have no problems with gay men or women and think by all means they should be allowed to have a child or even children if they want more than one.
I support gay adoption. I would like to know how many of the politicians voting against it have adopted a foster child. It doesn’t matter what sex you are as long as you are approved by the foster agency then you should be able to. I think in some cases where a girl has been molested by a man, that two moms would be more comfortable then a mom and dad. I know the majority of cases won’t be like that. I just don’t see what the big deal is. There are a ton of single parents and their children seem to be coping well without a balance of man and woman. If the rest of Americans would stop treating homosexuality like a taboo, you wouldn’t have to worry about kids feeling awkward with gay parents. Getting out of the foster care system and into a loving supportive home should be the main goal.
I personally dont approve of homosexuals so as regards concerning them adopting children is unusual and wrong to me. Im strongly against all of the acts associated with it. I also feel as though in some way the child may grow up confused to say well if I have two fathers wheres my mother or if I have two mothers wheres my father and you need a man and woman to create a child correct, and by that same sex couple will always have problems explaining that to their supposed child, but thats just my opinion. After growing up learning and experiencing life experiences and situations and feel like they dont belong. And I believe matters consisting that evolves around topics based or associated with that creates conflicts with it. In addition, it may also cause disfunction between members of the family. You need that male and female interaction to be a well developed person.
There are a lot of children who need good homes with caring and loving families. I support gay adoption because I have no reason to believe that they are incapable of being a good provider of both. Maybe ten years ago I would have said that I oppose to the idea of gay couples adopting. Time has changed and the thought of parents consisting of a mom and a dad no longer stands as strong as it used to. I like to think that it would be ideal for a little boy to have a father figure in his life growing up and for a little girl to have her mother alongside, but most of the people that I know have divorced parents and were raised mainly either by their mother or father. Yes, they are not perfect, but nobody is. I can also go into the fact that some straight parents committed child abuse, but it is not necessary because it is not true for all same-sex parents. We cannot deny homosexuals the privilege of adopting due to their orientation. In class, we talked about sexual orientation being a product of biology and partly the society. We cannot punish someone who is homosexual because he or she was born that way. Rev. Russell Johnson, chairman of the Ohio Restoration Project, a conservative Christian group said, "These people cannot reproduce. ... Experimenting on children through gay adoption is a problem." Homosexuals are not the only ones who cannot reproduce. What about straight couples who are unable to have babies on their own due to infertility? How come they are allowed to adopt? Being gay does not automatically equates not having the ability to become good parents.
I don’t have any problem with gay couples wanting to adopt children; I think that if anyone wants to adopt a child that it is ok. There are so many children that are just sitting in foster homes that I think it doesn’t matter if a gay couple wants to adopt. The way I look at it, it is one less child in a foster home. As long as the couple can provide a stable home and love for that child then it shouldn’t matter. I can not understand people who say that gay people can not provide for a child, and that they wouldn't make good parents, or that their sexual orientation is going to effect the child.
I don’t have any problem with gay couples wanting to adopt children; I think that if anyone wants to adopt a child that it is ok. There are so many children that are just sitting in foster homes that I think it doesn’t matter if a gay couple wants to adopt. The way I look at it, it is one less child in a foster home. As long as the couple can provide a stable home and love for that child then it shouldn’t matter. I can not understand people who say that gay people can not provide for a child, and that they wouldn't make good parents, or that their sexual orientation is going to effect the child.
I support gay couples adopting children because there are so many kids out there going from foster home to foster home. I don’t understand it when people say that it will affect the child in a bad way if he has two moms or two dads, don’t they think that child is being affected in a bad way by not having ANY parents? There is nothing out there that says gay couples do not make good parents. If it gets a child out of foster homes and into a loving home then let it be. I think that if someone wants to take in a child, love them and care for them, they should be able to.
I support the rights for same sex couples to adopt they are providing a service which is a home for the children to be accepted and raised. If they were to pass legislation making it only legal for straight couples to adopt children there would be all those other children who the couples would not adopt. At least with those children if they same sex couples were able to adopt them they would have a home too instead of being bounced from home to home. Some of the same sex couples can provide a better one than those provided by straight couples so I believe they should be given the chance to be parents too.
This is a very interesting subject. I am all for adoption by gays and lesbians for the sinple fact of how many children out there have no families. What would be the difference between and striaght and a gay parent isn't the parent, it's society. I mean come one, these people are human too. So all the people against it mean to tell me that it is better for these children to be passed through the system as if they are not even human, and we can't allow them to be adopted by a gay person? This is obsurd and I think everyone against it should be ashamed to be perfectly honest. Have we ever asked these children the question of whether they would like to be adopted by a gay or lesbian person, or keep being passed through the system from home to home? Let's find the answer to that one, then pass a judgement.
I personally don't have a prolem with gay couples adopting children or having biological children. As in heterosexual relationships, as long as the child is in a safe, nuturing environment, who are we to say that two women or two men can not provide a child all that they need, to be loving, well rounded individuals. I don't beleive for a second that a child raised in a gay home will become gay. I would like to think, that the gay families are very open with their children about their relationship and are excepting to their children if they choose a heterosexual relationship. I don't feel they should be denied the right to be parents because they don't fit into what society calls NORMAL! It's crazy to me that in the 21st century, people can be so ugly and ignorant! Who are we to judge!!
I do think that giving a child a home with two loving parents that they would otherwise not have, sounds like a great idea. Even with that being said, I do not believe in gay marriage, which brings me to my opinion of not believing in gay adoption. Marriage is defined as a partnership between a man and a woman, period. No law change would ever make me believe differently, the same with gay adoption. If God intended for couples of the same sex to conceive children, than they would be able to do so. Since naturally they cannot, I do not believe that is a right they have. Regardless of the negative or positive outcomes of children being adopted by two gay people, it is my strong belief that it is not right.
I oppose gay adoption. The reason I oppose gay adoption is that it does not suit the needs of the child to grow up in a family that is representative of one man and one woman. For a child to grow up in a socially cohesive manner, that child should be provided paternal role models of both genders. Oh certainly, I can see the argument that children raised by homosexuals are not inherently different, or changed by their adoptive parents. But it is an arguable shortcoming, and a deliberate one, to allow children to grow up in a home which has an absence of a particular gender role model.
I have no problem at all with gay people adopting children. Just becuase they are "different" doesnt mean that they can't provide the love and care that a straight family would be providing. People would rather see foster children who have been abused and neglected not have a home to live in rather then living with two people who could change their world around and love them and give them a nice home. Yes, society may make it hard for them growing up and having to here rude comments made by people but if you grow up with a family that would do anything for you and truly cares about you you can learn to ignore the ignorant people who try to bring other people down.
I support gay adoption all the way, you cannot judge a person by their sexuality. As long as the couple can provide a stable environment to the child thats all that should matter. There are plenty of children out there who need a family, who are we to judge whether the couple is straight or gay. Isn't the purpose of adoption for the child. There are many unfit straight couples out there who have children they don't want; if a gay couple wants to adopt let them. There are to many children going to homes where it seems unfit, if they are going to do an extensive background check on a gay couple they should do the same for straight. You can't bend the rules because of their sexual preference.
We live in a society where there are so many unwanted children. These children that are in the system are there for many horrific reasons; mentally/ physically abused, sexually abused, neglected from a nurturing home, not getting health care, not being taken to school, being treated as slaves, etc. What people fail to know is that a lot of these foster homes are not always providing these children with the stable and loving environment these children need. Many people become foster parents for a pay check. I believe in gay adoptions. A gay couple can provide a nurturing and loving home for a child. They can be just as good as a heterosexual couples. We have black people adopting white children, white people adopting black children, and there are a lot of success stories. Are we saying because gay couples raise a child there going to be gay. So why is it that gay children come out of heterosexual homes. We can’t get mind blocked on sexual status, race, and/or social status. These children have been through enough in their short amount of years. These children need a chance at life. If a gay couple can give a child a better life, what their heterosexual parents failed them of… then I don’t know what the problem is.
Growing up in the church and the way my parents raised me, i have always been taught that being gay is wrong. On another hand though, I have an aunt who is gay so I have been able to see both side of the situation. Not only is my aunt gay, but she and her partner had also adopted a child. They have had her since she was a baby and now she is 8 or 9. It is interesting to see how the 3 of them interact with each other. My cousin calls one of them mom and the other mommy. In my opinion, it can probably be a little confusing for the child, but if it works then that's a good thing right? If having two gay or lesbian parents dosen't mentally mess up a child then who are we to stop them, especially if no one else wants the child.
Anyone who can give a child a good home should be able to adopt. It is true that most of the people on drugs and in prison today came from traditional straight homes, so why not give the homosexuals a chance. My only concern is for the welfare of the children, although I feel that a homosexual would make just as good of a parents as a heterosexuals, given the prejudice that exist in our society it may be hard at school for these child who are raised in same sex households. Other than that, there seems to be no reason it shouldn’t be allowed. It seems like many of these "Born-Again" Christians think that just because a person is a homosexual that they are child molesters, which is ridiculous. There is no reason why a person’s sexual orientation should stop them from adopting.
This is a very touchy topic, but if this person whether gay or straight can provide and take on the challenges of adopting and raising a child then let them. I do see that the child could be exposed to things that a child living in a straight home would'nt be, but I also see it as that giving them a better understanding of people. I think it is truely unfair to think that someone would make an unfit parent because of their sexuality. With the amount of children out there suffering because of no parenting this shouldn't be the main topic to address. I think it's better to have gay parents than no parents at all.
I really dont mind same sex parents. I dont think its right for the state to say that same sex adoption is wrong for them either. It doesnt affect me, but im not sure about other people, especially children. So far, from my personal experiences(which is only two) I think its ok for them to adopt. Gay people are still people. And if straights can adopt then why not them too? One of my friends is a lesbian and she has a little girl and they have done fine. Her daughter did well in school, graduated, and is going to UCF and she is pretty serious with a boy. The only negative thought I have ever had about a gay couple was another friend of mine is a lesbain and she is getting married soon to another lesbain and she told me that she wasnt nervous about this marriage because if she doesnt want to be with her anymore she can just get up and leave. She doesnt have to go through a divorce and pay money. Because to her, and the state, its not "real". And that doesnt change my mind on gays, it just made me question her morals. So I think that its ok for them to adopt, just as long as they can understand the situtation just like a I hope a straight couple should understand the situation about adopting too.
Gay Adoptions have its pro & cons (bad & good). Let me start by agreeing with a lesbian women by the name of O'Donell when she said "To deny people the right to try to reach kids who are unreachable is wrong". There are so many kids with out parents in foster home being abused or neglected,that if they are not adopted by heterosexual couple why not let a guy couple adopt them. As long as DHS has done there part on researching the couple background and current habits then it should be ok to allow a child be adopted by guy couple. Now adoption should occur after few months of a trial period. We need to see how the child interact with the couple and if everything seem to go ok, then proceed with the adoption. The only concern I will have for the child is the confusion as growing up about them self and how the child is going to face society about his two fathers. To my opinion that's too much for a child to handle, but hopefully is he has the right adopted parents, Im assuming they will know what to advise the child. In conclusion, I support the guys couple to adopt. Of course as long is in the child best interest.
I am strongly opposed to allowing gays to adopt children. My opinion is based on my Christian beliefs. Marriage was created for a man and a woman; therefore they would be able to create a child together. A child needs a relationship with his or her mother and father. Each parent has plays a large role in bringing up their child. There are certain things a father teaches their son or daughter and there are other things that a mother teaches their child. How can a child learn all the things they need to know if they have two parents of the same sex? I do not believe in passing judgment on anyone, but the Bible clearly states being gay is wrong.
I support the idea that "same-sex partners are barred from joint adoption". I think the best environment for kids to grow up is a normal family, with mom and dad. Growing up with both mom and dad will help kids to develop good personalities. I think people have the right to choose their partners. They can be heterosexual or homosexual. Although more and more people accept gays and lesbians, it does not mean we encourage people to be gays. If kids live with same-sex parents, their sex orientation will be affected by the same-sex parents. Our education should try to teach people to be heterosexual because that is why our generation continues. The same-sex partners are not qualified to do the task.
I oppose gay adoption only because it goes against my religion. Since I grew up as a Christian, I have been taught that being gay isn't the best way to live when following in God's steps and living a Christian life. Morally I feel like it's wrong because children always look up to their parents no matter what the circumstances are. Whether children follow in the footsteps of their parents always differs, but having a gay partner in a household that is shared with a child is basically telling the child that it's okay to be gay and that gay adoption is as well healthy for a child and I believe it's not. My reasoning is based solely on religion. I'm not saying that it's not okay to be gay, but from what I have been taught, I just take it and run with those teachings.
Who are we to judge whether or not a person's sexual preference will determine if they will be a good parent? Heterosexuals can be horrible parents: they neglect, abuse and kill their children. The gay couple in the article adopted a son who was sexually abused, which was probably inflicted by a heterosexual parent. And now this child has a better chance of life and is out of the foster care system, which is a joke itself. I support gay adoptions. The heterosexual parents in our society obviously aren’t doing a good job, it’s time to give someone else a chance.
Times are changing. Ideally I would have to say no I do not believe gays and lesbians should be able to adopt a child. I like to believe in the "old fashion" sense of family structure as being a woman and a man as parents. But these thoughts are overriden by the fact that children just need good homes, someone to love then, provide for then and help them cope with this ever changing society. As long as gays and lesbians can offer the necessary provisions to raise a child then maybe they should be granted the opportunity.
It shouldn't matter if a couple is gay or not when they adopt a child. As long as they meet the requirements to adopt, then they should be able to no matter if they are gay or straight. The argument that kids will be better off if they are raised in a "normal" family is just plain wrong. It doesn't matter if the parents are gay, straight, white, black, an atheist, or Catholic. All that matters is that the parents raise the kids in a socially acceptable way. I don't see people arguing that inter-racial couples can't adopt. What about atheist? This is just another example of people who are afraid or whatever their problem is with gays, trying to limit their rights as Americans. How can we say we live in the land of the free and still need to have conversations like this? Either everyone has the same rights or we need to stop saying we live in a free nation.
people can do what they want to do as far as there life sytle.Pros:
1. Homosexuals and heterosexuals alike have parental instincts and are as interested in beginning families and raising children.
2. A family should be based on love and trust, if these two elements are present in a relationship, homosexual or heterosexual, there would be no reason that the environment the couple creates for a child would be bad.
3. Research has demonstrated over and over again that children raised by gay parents are actually even better adjusted than kids from straight parents. It is conjectured that this is because gay parents are under such constant scrutiny and are more hands on than "typical" parents and their kids have benefited from that.
Cons (These do NOT reflect my personal beliefs):
1. Some believe that we'll influence them into being homosexual/immoral.
2. Some people believe that a child needs to have a mother and father to be well balanced. A child needs to understand the difference between genders. By living with the influence of two parents that are gay, they will not be able to decipher "gender roles".
3. Kids are cruel and may taunt/make fun of them
How can anyone ban anything from any particular group? I thought this was a free country. I believe that anyone should be able to adopt a child as long as they have the same qualifications as a heterosexual couple does. There are so many children put into foster care every year and foster care system is very messed up in how they move children around from house to house that messes a child up even more than leaving with a stable and secure homosexual couples house. Gay or lesbians are still human beings and if they want to help a child by bringing the child into their house, why cant they? Homosexuals should still be treated as equal.
I really don’t oppose gay adoptions. The reason that I say this is because everyone needs to be in a loving and caring family. I have relatives that are gay that have a daughter and their daughter is very happy and so are they. It may be hard for the child once they get older because I’m sure that rude people would try to make fun of them for having the same sex parents, but I don’t think that it should matter. A child deserves a happy and healthy environment to live in and who is to say that same sex parents cant provide that?
I support gay adolption 100 percent. No one can tell another person if they are suitable for parenthood. I would think children in gay households would have better lives then some straight household families, do to the simple fact that two gay people have to want a child before having one. They can not physically have one so therefore have to go through alot to have one. With all the time and effort exerted to get a child they totally deserve the child.
I do not support gay adoption for multiple reasons. The first reason being that I am a firm believer in two parents of a child; male and female. I believe that both parts of the parental unit have an important role in the raising of a child. It is the balance between characteristic traits from mother and father that make someone the way they are. It is proven that if either the mother or father are missing from a household, there are significant negative effects on the child's character. I think that whether a gay couple are both male or both felmale makes no difference. A child in a household of overpowering domanitation of one sex is an altogether bad idea. I believe in the unit of marriage under a religious sector. One man, one woman.
I think that gays should be allowed to adopt children. I think that they will be a loving couple that would raise a child like a normal couple would. There are lots of children out there that are in an orphanage that have always dreamed of having a family. If a gays could adopt they could save a child one by one and bring him or her into a loving home, and the children could have a loving family. So what if the kids will be made fun of at school for having two dads or two moms, the kid should be happy to have real parents. I also think that having two parents of the same sex would not sway the child to become gay, I think that they are born with those intentions.
I believe that couples of the same sex are fully capable to raise a child. As long as they set goal and boundaries the child will be able to grow up and live a normal life. As far as the child being made fun of because they have two moms or two dads, well society is becoming more accepting of the gay community and i feel that in the near future its will be normal for children to be raised by a gay couple. Lots of gay couples would like to adopt children which will help reduce to number of children living in foster care their entire life. So all in all I feel that as long as a family is willing to raise a child in a loving and nurturing environment then there should be no hesitation to place a child with that family regardless of gender. Even children raise in a single parent home are capable of growing up completely normal and functioning properly in society.
For one I am for gay marriage. If they make each other happy then why shouldn't they be able to get married like everyone else? If they want a family they shouldn't be stopped, they should be allowed to do so. If a gay couple were to adopt a child they would most likely give him/her the love and attention they deserve. They parents wouldn't treat the child any differently than if a heterosexual couple adopted them. They will have parents and it will be a family none the less. I do agree with what someone said above. Our society isn't very accepting and the child may be made fun of, and be judged because their parents are homosexuals.
I don’t agree with Gay Marriages being able to adopt child. I don’t really have to many thoughts to gay rights but I oppose gay marriage. I feel that a child especially in their youth needs both a mother and father figure. I have personally had only one Parent raising me sense I was 10 and, I have turned out fine but, I have always had other mother figures in my life to support me. Data shows that children with a mother and a father are much more triumphant and have less difficulty in life than a child with the same sex parents. I also have another side, to where I don’t want to judge because who am I to say that the same sex parent couldn’t do a good job raising a kid.
I believe that gay adoption should be legal. Though society may be to blame for people turning gay, it should not be punishment to not have adopt a kid if that is there wish. I do understand that the kid may go through trouble in school, but that may be the kid's chance to learn early not to care what other people think. Plus, far to many kids don't get adopted and are left without families. So if two homosexual people want to give a child in need a family, then who are we to stop them?
I have no problem with same sex couples adopting. There are too many kids out there in foster homes that need to be adopting. I think anyone that wants to adopt should be able to as long as they can provide for the kid. People that say that it would be unfair for the kid because it would be embarrassing for the kid I understand that point of view, but I still think its not as bad as being in the foster system. It’s a good deed to adopt and I think nothing should stop anyone that wants to contribute.
I absolutely support gay adoption. There are so many children that have been in foster care for years and need loving homes. There are so many of the hard to place children, and children that are too old for most people, that a gay couple who have wanted kids for the longest time could adopt. I think that just because someone is gay, it doesn’t make them any less fit to raise a child. I think that gay parents might actually be better parents, because they have to work so hard to get a child and it doesn’t just happen to them. I don’t think it is fair for a child to sit in foster care when there is a family out there for them that will love them unconditionally (gay or not).
I personally believe that gay adoption should be allowed. I dont think just because the child has gay parents that he would have a bad childhood in reality they would have the same amount of love for that child then straight parents. All that should matter is that they have a stable home for the children and want nothing better for them but to be happy. It doesnt matter if there is a mother or not, to me all that matters is that you are a good person. So please look past all this prejudice and see that there have been cases where straight couples also have flawed in the adoption system. No one is perfect
This is a really tough topic because when looking at it from all angles, I believe that there is a gray area. While many people may claim that homosexuality is wrong, or unnatural (for whatever reason) those same people cant claim that there are enough willing adults out there to parent our orphaned children. Though, I believe that ideally, at least until gay marriages are legalized throughout the nation and homosexuality is accepted by the large majority, then having a set of parents that is straight would be the most beneficial for the child. Because, lets face it, homosexuals are discriminated all the time, is it fair to also put that discrimination on a child?
This is a really tough topic because when looking at it from all angles, I believe that there is a gray area. While many people may claim that homosexuality is wrong, or unnatural (for whatever reason) those same people cant claim that there are enough willing adults out there to parent our orphaned children. Though, I believe that ideally, at least until gay marriages are legalized throughout the nation and homosexuality is accepted by the large majority, then having a set of parents that is straight would be the most beneficial for the child. Because, lets face it, homosexuals are discriminated all the time, is it fair to also put that discrimination on a child?
This is a really tough topic because when looking at it from all angles, I believe that there is a gray area. While many people may claim that homosexuality is wrong, or unnatural (for whatever reason) those same people cant claim that there are enough willing adults out there to parent our orphaned children. Though, I believe that ideally, at least until gay marriages are legalized throughout the nation and homosexuality is accepted by the large majority, then having a set of parents that is straight would be the most beneficial for the child. Because, lets face it, homosexuals are discriminated all the time, is it fair to also put that discrimination on a child?
There are so many children in this world that live their entire childhood with out any kind of real parental figures. I'm not talking someone that feeds and clothes, but someone that loves. The growing majority of gays that are wanting to adopt these otherwise unloved children is a wonderful thing! Give these people children to care for and love. I would like to think that we have come far enough in this day and age to realize it is not about sexual orientation, but more the ability to love. The laws need to catch up with the times and take the necessary steps to make this process easier for these individuals and children.
As much of us do know gay rights has been a hot topic for a while now. I do not support gay marriage, and I do not support gay adoption. A child needs both a mother and a father in their lives. It is a known statistic that children with a mother and father are less likely to get in trouble and become much more successful in the long wrong. If a child has two same sex parents, they will be highly scrutinized even though they did not choose that for themselves. Although same sex couples would help the adoption rate, it would hurt the children in the long run.
I support gay adoption because I feel that it can benefit not only the child but the parents. I think
there are a lot of kids that are in foster homes and this can help reduce that high number and give these kids a home to live in. I think its better to have caring parents then no parents at all. The only negative thing I can think of is how it will effect the kid when growing up. I don't know if they have done any studies to determine the psychological effects on the kids in the long run. I do however feel that its a win win situation and there should
be no reason to deny three people something they want when its benefiting everyone. I think people should give these children a chance to grow up in a "normal" home and not in a foster home. I defiantly support gay adoption.
I now feel that any couple that is equipped enough to raise a child should be allowed to. Especially if it's taking an innocent, victimized child out of foster care and putting them in a loving household. Although my thoughts have been strongly against gay marriage, after reading this article I have come to realize that every child deserves the best life that can be offered to them. Whether it’s a gay, lesbian, or straight couple, I really don’t think the primary needs would be affected in raising that child. No matter what sex you and your partner are, if the necessary needs can be provided to ensure a better life for a child I don’t see why it’s such a big deal.
I believe that in order to adopt a child one needs to be financially qualified and be a good morally and ethically person. If a couple encompasses these qualities then in my eyes I believe that they are able people ready to adopt if they want to. I feel that it is not a broad topic and it needs to be discussed with couples on an individual basis. I do not feel that there should be a broad law banning homosexuals from adopting a child. Even if a law comes to be there are other ways for homosexual couples to become parents. However since there is no law I believe that more couples should try to adopt whether they are homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, or asexual. There is a plethora of children that are in need of help, love, and caring parents. The good thing about children is that they are not as quick to judge. Hopefully we all can be a little more understanding.
I see nothing wrong with gay and lesbian couples adopting children. I may not agree with the lifestyle that gay and lesbian people live, but the problem is evident: these children need loving homes. I do not think that someone’s sexual orientation can determine whether or not they are fit to be a loving parent to a parentless child. I know that even straight parents looking to adopt have to go through a lot of paperwork to adopt a child and I know the same standard will be held for gay or lesbian adoptive parents. As long as they are stable, I think they should have the right to adopt.
I do not support gay or lesbian relationship. It doesn’t mention anywhere in the Bible where two men can be married one become husband and the other become wife. It is the same for the women to. I don’t support gay couple and I will never do. I am not trying to offense anybody this is me and that’s how I feel. In my opinion, I believe a good couple should be form with a man and a woman. It should not be two men or two women together. Even though I don’t support gay couple that doesn’t mean I would not agree on if they want to adopt a child. I agree if they feel like they can raise a child and they want to adopt one. But it would be best if the couple who decide to do the adoption were a man and a woman not two men or two women.
I am totally opposed to gay adoption. people do not think about the children they adopt, only themselves. The psychological damage that I have experienced with children from a gay union has been very sad. The abuse suffered by the hands of other children and the confusion that a majority of these children experience as to why they have two of the same sex parents is very disturbing. i do not object to gay adoptions because of the sexual orientation, or preferences of the adoptees, but more because of the long term, and short term effects that they will cause on the children they are adopting.
I don't support adoption for gays. It doesn't seem right to me. I don't think its fair for a child to grow up with gay parents. The roles of having a father/mother are just too important and can effect a child for a life time. I would think if a child is raised by a gay couple, peers will tease the kid at some point, also they will go through some sort of self realization when he notices he has 2 women/men as his parents and all his other friends have one man and one woman for parents. I don't know how the child would react, probably a little confused.
I’m both for adoption because giving a child another chance at life should not matter who their parent’s sexual preference is. If you want to advertise children up for adoption and then turn around and say oh no, not you, you not welcome then they should not even try to put all those children in homes. There is only so much we can do in this world and have such a short life that it should not matter what the couple’s sexual preference is if all they are doing is loving and raising that child to be better fit for the world ahead.
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